This is kind of a long post ( forgive me ), but it's driving me insane and I need to vent a little bit ( well, actually a lot of bit ).
I grew-up in a Dallas suburb near Garland. I lived there from the time I was in seventh grade until about one year ago. I have now moved a little bit further eastward, but I am still well within driving distance to the Dallas metroplex.
I have one brother who is almost the same age as me ( he is about one-and-a-half years younger ), so, growing-up, we always had mutual friends and spent a lot of time together. A lot of friends came and went here and there, but there were about two or three that we were really close to and still consider as our friends to this day.
During high school, we ( meaning myself, my brother, and all of our friends ) had a lot of problems that often had us divided, fighting with each other, fighting over girls, jawjacking about each other behind peoples' backs, etc. The sad thing about that was this: almost every one of the problems that destroyed a lot of friendships, and nearly destroyed lifelong friendships, were caused by this one dude who is so screwed-up in the head that I can't even begin to tell you about it. This guy was constantly trying to screw other peoples' girlfriends behind their backs, trying to instigate ( spelling? ) fights between people, and spreading more gossip that a 16-year-old teenage girl. Furthermore, he never had the courage to apologize-for or stand-up and take responsibility for anything that he did or caused.
Whenever high school ended, everyone but I ( and the jackass in question ) went into the Marine Corps and are presently still enlisted. That left me and him... and it sucked. For obvious reasons, I tried to get away from him so that my bonds with other people wouldn't be subject to the same chaos that they were in earlier years. After all, it was only a few shirt months after that that I almost lost my girlfriend of three years because of his kiddy-$h1t antics.
The more I tried to avoid him, the worse things got. Sometimes, I would get calls from him and would not answer them. Whenever I didn't answer, he would drive-up in front of my house and look in my windows to make sure that I wasn't there. I tried to make a myspace.com page to keep in touch with my friend ( especially the car guys in this area ), but that didn't work either because he would flood my message page with messages every day. If I didn't answer one of them, he would start sending me like hate mail and crap. Other times, when I would go out with my girl, he would drive-by her house to check and see if I was there. I almost lost my job due to the fact that he would call up at my work every day for no reason whatsoever just to see if I was there and jawjack about nothing at all. Whenever my family would plan a vacation, he would go out and buy an airline ticket to go with us without even being invited. Anytime I got a job at a good place he would apply there the very next day. I have even had to fight random people before as a result of him trying to be all cute and obnoxious in public. He was nuts basically.
After I moved from that place ( to where I live now ), I thought that I had shook him. I quit answering his calls and messages, and he no longer knew where to find my house. I finally ignored his ass enough to where he quit calling me for about six months. However, seeing as how I don't have any friends out in this area, I decided to get my myspace.com page going again and reconnect with some of my old friends from Garland. That was gong well until guess-who showed up again, and, once again, has started flooding my message page and e-mail. He even called an operator and looked-up my phone number, and word has it that he is trying to look-up my address.
I don't know man... a part of me thinks that he is probably a h0m0, but another part of me thinks that he might just be crazy ( or both ). I know for a fact that he is an attention freak ( growing-up he was spoiled by his parents and grandparents who always thought that he could do no wrong ). For Christ's sake he is now 22 years old and still goes school-clothes shopping with his grandparents at the beginning of every semester. I had always dreamed of having a hot supermodel chick stalk me, but not some jackass like him. I enjoy having friends and spending time with them, but I don't feel that it is right that I should constantly be subjected to someone disrespecting my time and personal space. Due to my profession I can not do anything violent or illegal or it will almost certainly end my career. I kind of feel like my hands are tied.
I know this sounds like a wierd-ass problem ( well it is ). Sorry about the long read.
That dude has some serious problems, he is crazy and a big <H>omo ….
I wouldn’t be surprise if he’s got a framed picture of u, on top of a table with candles and sh@T, u better keep yourself out of that guy; he is obsessed with u.
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Originally Posted by madcatz
turbo'd is not a reference I would make to that car......its getting Satan's Heart put in the engine bay
That dude has some serious problems, he is crazy and a big <H>omo ….
I wouldn’t be surprise if he’s got a framed picture of u, on top of a table with candles and sh@T, u better keep yourself out of that guy; he is obsessed with u.
too much detail about the table ... I have tried to get advice from people, but everyone that I have talked to has never had anything like this happen to them before.
has anyone ever tried to confront him about this kind of stuff? you might think this would hurt his feelings, but in the long run it would be the best for everyone to be straight up. at this point it's either your sanity or his and as history has been told, everyone has been putting up with him. who knows it may help him grow up. best of luck
Last edited by draven von; 06-21-2007 at 08:04 AM.
Yeah- I wouldn't be too concerned, but peeking in windows and **** deserves a good ass-beating. If the guy hasn't gotten the message when you weren't obvious, maybe you should be more obvious. Stop being nice about it.
If you seriously think the guy is a loose cannon I would go get a gun and a CCL. He does sound like 1 part wackjob, 1 part sicko stalker, and 1 part ****. 3 parts get-the-****-away-from-me.
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it but if the guy does anything you deem to be unacceptable I would straight up let him know. If you were a girl and you were that girl's BF... how would you handle it then?
haha this is hilarious... I can't wait till part 2! This guy is nuts! I mean I've done some crazy things when it comes to chicks like say I love you but never this crazy...
Yeah- I wouldn't be too concerned, but peeking in windows and **** deserves a good ass-beating. If the guy hasn't gotten the message when you weren't obvious, maybe you should be more obvious. Stop being nice about it.
I haven't always been nice about it... he just doesn't care. I'm telling you man he's messed-up really bad. He's one of those people that ( if he knows that you don't want him around ) will come around twice as much with a " you're going to chill wit me whether you like it or not " attitude.
If you seriously think the guy is a loose cannon I would go get a gun and a CCL.
I already have one, but I'm not going to shoot him because he annoys the **** out of me.
You got to understand... this guy isn't dangerous at all, he's just looney and pitiful. As a matter of fact, he is probably the biggest wuss that ever lived. He is the type that, if someone tells him " I'm gonna beat your ass " will go to his parents and file a complaint with the police for threatening him.
has anyone ever tried ton confront him about this kind of stuff? you might think this would hurt his feelings, in the long run it would be the best for everyone to be straight up. at this point it's either you sanity or his and as history has been told, everyone has been putting up with him. who knows it may help him grow up. best of luck
You know, we have always thought that exact way. However, nothing at all makes him grow up any due to the way that he has been raised. You got to understand, he will never be able to identify with reality because he doesn't have to live in reality. He doesn't have a job because his mom and dad buy everything for him. He is 22 years old and still gets over 2,000.00 or so worth of Christamas and birthday presents every year, and his mother still takes him school clothes shopping. Until he has to get out and grind like most of us do every day, he will never really be normal.
well at this point i don't think the cops can do anything since he's not a physical threat to you. especially now that he doesn't know where you live yet. you can definitely try, but i think the police would wait til something deems as a threat before they do anything. and getting a restraining order isn't sissy. it's probably the mature thing to do. it takes the problem out of your hands or should actually.
if this guys a big wuss then why don't you threaten to kick his ass then? i mean really blow up on him, only threats mind you. or who DOES have control over this guy? when little kids act up in school they notify the parents. this guy still acts and is treated like a kid so go to the people who has authority or responsibility to him. maybe tell them what has been going on and you may have to involve the police if it continues. he's 22 so anything and everything will go on his record for a long time. they may not too comfortable with that idea.
other than that you may just have to continue to harshly reject his antics towards you but it has to be immediate and harsh until he makes the association. just like training a dog or little kid, you have to scold them right away when they do something wrong otherwise the lag time will lose the associate of the punishment to what they just did wrong.
he's obviously a control freak. most likely because he feels he has no control of his life. of course he doesn't know what he's doing to other people... or care
Last edited by draven von; 06-21-2007 at 08:46 AM.
can't you block him from your emails and your myspace? i think you can even have his phone number blocked from calling you, talk to your service provider to see what they can do. and you may want to talk to the then about keeping your personal information from anyone other than you because you have a stalker.
find a new circle of friends. life is always changing so don't sit there and live it out on myspace.
Don't keep avoiding him. Tell him straight up. "Dude you're creeping me out give me some ****ing space. I was cool with you in high school because of all the guys but that is over. Have a good life. Just keep me out of it. And if you roll by my house again I will call the police."
You may think a restraining order makes you look like a sissy but you posting on it here makes you look like a sissy. You may think the guy is messed up but the more you keep saying it and not doing something about it the more goofy it sounds.
I was suggesting the gun because you seem to be worried about your safety. If not then there is nothing to worry about. Tell the guy to straight up **** off and leave you alone or you are going to relocate his sack to his throat.
You may think a restraining order makes you look like a sissy but you posting on it here makes you look like a sissy. You may think the guy is messed up but the more you keep saying it and not doing something about it the more goofy it sounds.
I was suggesting the gun because you seem to be worried about your safety. If not then there is nothing to worry about. Tell the guy to straight up **** off and leave you alone or you are going to relocate his sack to his throat.
I couldn't have said it better...
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Originally Posted by madcatz
turbo'd is not a reference I would make to that car......its getting Satan's Heart put in the engine bay
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Damn, sucks to be stalked by a guy!
... I have tried to get advice from people, but everyone that I have talked to has never had anything like this happen to them before.
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