Now for the relay
These directions are for a 5 pin bosch relay (most auto stores carry them) and an arming switch that turns on and off +12v.
1. +12v from battery (switched)
2. Yellow wire from MSD window switch
3. +12v output to nitrous system
4. +12v from arming switch
Basically you are going to cut the wire that goes from the +12v arming switch to the barney box. Connect the wire that leads to the barney box to pin 3 and connect the wire that leads to the arming switch to pin 4. This will only work if your arming switch is turning on and off 12v, not a ground.
In a nutshell when you arm your nitrous system pin 4 on the relay gets power. Now when you hit the initial rpm you have the window switch set to turn on at, it will ground pin 2, and pin 3 on the relay will get power. Now in order to spray, you have to have your switch armed, be at WOT and be in the rpm range you have the window switch set at. If one of these is not met, then you will not be spraying.