Track days are generally days of fun, excitement and friendly competition. I have lined up an truely Awesome Track day on November 18th. The Days events consist of waking up at 6:30 getting ready and making it to the track by 8 for a day of autocross. Then after that I have a dinner date with my woman and a few of my friends before we head to a Honda/Acura meet at a drag track where I will get to run the car for the first time on the drag track...Sounds awesome right? Welll there is a catch, my girl friend thinks it a big waste of gas to drive from one track race around only to drive to another track to race around. How do I go about getting time in on both tracks? Should I ditch the meet and tear it up at the autocross then go for dinner? Or should I bite my tounge and just do the meet and the drag racing? Should I lie to her and tell her that I'm going to work during the day-then skip out and go racing??BTW I'll never get away with the later one she's like madam Cleo and figures out everything! Also I plan to marry this woman someday so Ideas like telling her to eff-off are out the window...I need help with a really good plan in deception! Help Please!
Oh yeah here reasoning against it is: she's lost 3 family members in car accidents, and two the money can be better saved for a house, which I do agree on the last one but all work and no play makes jon a dull dull boy right??
She's testing you. Gas = Money (money=house/spent on her), and she wants to know why you think its a good idea to spend money on something like driving. You can explain that it spending money learning to drive your car at the edge makes you a better, safer driver on the street, particularly in emergency situations.
OR...Explain to her its like shopping, to you it doesn't make sense that she shops at one department store all day, only to go to a specialty store later. It seems like a waste of time and money.
How bout this-I can just not say anything and let her forget about it until the day of when she trys to get ahold of me and can't because I'm scooting around the track-then I'll play stupid and turn it around and be like "Awe..baby I thought you wanted me to do the things I like" and make her seem like the bad guy for trying to talk me out of it prior. Mooo hahaha!-this seems like lying but not really.
I'm thinking that if I come up with the money from an outside source(EBAY) to fund the track day then she won't have a leg to stand on with her arguement. Can you get money for donateing plasma?
1. Don't lie
2. If it's a part of your life, and she can't accept it, you better think long and hard about the relationship, eventually you'll have to choose one of them. Seriously.
3. (most important of all) An autocross is NOT a track day. I don't know why that's driving me nuts that you're calling it that.
Fortunately, my wife supports me 100%. She may not like some of the bills, and she gets upset over the cost sometimes, but when I've thought about giving up, she's always talked "sense" into me and kept me going.
Ok, ok its not offically a "Track" its a pile of cones on an airport run way-ah but the drag strip is a track. Around Ocala a pile of cones is as close as it comes to running a "track" with out having to drive to Sea Breeze, or waiting 6 months for the BMW club to rent the road course in Gainesville then joining them. I really wish I could romp on an open course I'm getting really good at this cone thing so the open track should be alot of fun. I seriously contemplated comming from florida out to texas to run in that track day that you guys had out there just because I wanted to run with other preludes and on an open track. The only other time that I've seen another lude out there was when I went out the first time, and even then I couldn't compare myself to that car because I had a hard enough time trying to keep the car between the cones and out of the grass let alone beign competitive. Perhaps I'll get the chance to run one day. I don't think she has a problem with the "AUTOCROSS DAYS" normally, we've just been wrestling with the idea of a house of our own so she's in penny pincher mode if you know what I mean.
We watched King Kong last night-sorta we had it on for the first 30 min then made dinner then watched the last 45 or so and she caught the emotional tail end of the movie(she cried) where Kong escapes and rampages through the city looking for his love and Ulitmately Dies-then there is this phrase at the end where one reporter says to Jack Black (the movie director)-"What do you think killed him?"-and he replied "Beauty killed the beast" so I made a comment to the effect that she was doing the same thing to the Lude. And she was like "oh whatever, How can you not be upset over this?(kong's death)" I think that if I keep chipping away she'll eventually cave-not that I need her permission I'll probably just go to the track---Err... Autocross anyway.
Tell her this is your one passion, one hobby, bla, bla, bla... She needs to accept it. period. If not, she'll wreck every car thing you ever want to do. I never thought I'd get mine to accept it. But if your firm enough, she'll cave in. Well, maybe not a heart doctor...
Everytime I read this thread I cringe. Why is this in AX/RR anyway? Maybe OT would get more relevant answers?
I would avoid guilt trips, back handed comments, hint dropping, as they are all pretty immature ways to deal with this and just address the issue head on.
I don't know your girlfriend, so maybe she likes things that way.
+1 with Billy, autocross is not the track. Drivin' me nuts too
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