first off i would do what everyone else is saying to do..... build your engine up before you go turbo so you won't have as MANY problems, i would also look at fuel management such as aem or hondata and bigger fuel injectors (440-550cc).
right now i have the kit that f-max sells for our 4th gens. and it's pretty awesome. i have a .63 ar t3/t4, 35mm tial wastegate, the mf2 fuel stuff, hks bov, and the intercooler + piping. so far i haven't had any problems but i've only had it on for about 4.5 weeks now. i'm boosting about 7.5 psi and it's running really good. i tuned the fuel to around 12.3-12.5 at wot with a wideband, and i'd have to say that that has really helped.
if i was to do it over again i would get a custom kit and just use the intercooler + piping and the manifold + downpipe from f-max. then get some fuel management and a greddy bov. oh and don't forget the tial wastegate.

i hope this helped you..... sorry for rambling on about my setup but i think it's good to hear about what other fi luders have and what they think they should have done........
peace