Don't you have a sticker on the top of the fuse box that tells you where everything is?
Anyways....the relays are the big things sticking up on the right hand side closest to the front (from looking in the engine bay). The headlight fuses are directly above those side by side (left and right). Thus, the fuses are also the closest fuses to the front. Make sense?
BTW I just looked this up in the manual....have one?