Thanks man! I appreciate all the help...
After playing with it some more tonight I've decided that this is beyond me for now, so I am going to take it to good buddies mechanic tomorrow and see what they come up with...if they can fit me in...
I jacked the car up on stands tonight and looked at the job to replace the cables and it looks like it requires dropping the exhaust to get under the heat shield to get to the 2 bolts that hold the cables in the firewall...urgh!... the rest of the job wouldn't be too bad, there are a few really tight spots...but I think I could figure it out...still that plus the exhaust is enough for me to let someone else do it...
I did notice that the cable is over extending, I had my neighbor come over and help me I removed the cable from the knuckle and had him push the shifter forward all the way, the cable was aprox a 1/8" longer than where the knuckle was at in third... in other words shifter lever was in third, knuckle was in third, disconnected from one another the cable was longer by 1/8"...Also with the cable disconnected I moved the shift knuckle with my hand from 3rd to N to 4th and it felt perfect so I KNOW it's not the internals of the tranny...WHEW!...
What I am hoping for is that this mechanic of my buddies can find a way to work with what I have, I REALLY don't want to buy that part...but will if I need to...IF I do buy the part, I am fabricating some polyurethane bushings, I'm sick of the crap shifts in my Prelude....if LEAN Racing wasn't evidently out of business I'd buy their bushings...