Thanks alot guys - your responses have given me a toehold to start investigating my options. It always helps me to get some initial guidance to focus my research when I enter a totally new field. For the record, here's what the response of these bass shakers looks like:
So you can imagine why this is a problem. I don't need it perfectly linear, but as is things are out of control. Certain frequencies create a great effect, while others are just too powerful and I can't achieve a good balance.
Badahab - I was actually looking for something really cheap as you guessed. I'm thinking in the sub-$50 range

In that range, the "parametric" eq's I've seen (Lanzar, Pyramid, etc.) don't seem to be truly parametric - they still have 4 or 5 set frequencies albeit focused in certain ranges. I think this will still do the trick, even if not perfectly. I don't really see my bass shakers as hi-fidelity speakers
Anyway, thanks a lot for the help; if you have any other suggestions, I'm all ears!