Ok, so you've done the modification in this
thread courtesey of JakeTheSlayer,
and you're happy, cause your fogs work with both the parking lights and regular headlights. But you still yearn for more- you want those fogs to work in concert with the highbeams. You totally disconnect the 2nd relay (the gold one) but all that does is make the fogs not work at all, even though every other part of your lighting system acts normally.
So what do you do?
The gold relay is a 5-post relay, but only 4 of the posts are used. It's a normally closed relay, meaning the circuit is complete as long as the other end of the relay does not receive power.
Looking at the plug that goes into it, there is a white wire, and another white wire with an orange stripe. this is the ground for the 12v foglight power. I don't have any pretty pictures, but this should be fairly easy to figure out.
cut both of the white wires (striped and non-striped) and strip off the insulation on the harness side of things. Simply connect the ends of these two wires. You are done.
To make it pretty, I used quick disconnects on both wires, and a short 'jumper' wire to connect everything. I also put quick disconnects and taped the ends of both the wires left in the plug. This kept them safe from shorting anything out, and left the mod easy to undo if I decided that the power of foglights combined with highbeams was too much for public roads.
From there you can plug the relay back in, or leave it undone. In my driving around, it didn't seem to make any difference, but I left it plugged in, just in case the other wires were important grounds.
After doing this (and assuming you did harness mod #1), you will notice that the fogs only turn on when the parking lights or headlights are on, but flashing the highbeams, or just turning them on will not turn them off. If you just flash your highbeams without at least the parking lights on, you will notice that the fogs will not work.
Thanks to Jacob for starting this harness modding madness.